Gender Wars; Part II

Assent into Queendom.

We need women who are so strong they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free.” – Kavita Ramdas

What is FEMALE?

What is a WOMAN?

What is QUEENDOM?

I have lived on this earth for approximately two hundred and forty-five months. I have gone through the tribulations of life as a WOMAN and I have been Judged and graded as a FEMALE.

Allow me today to vent my tribulations along with my ideas and at least make the world know that there is more to WOMAN because this is what I see in me.

Am I the female of my history?

I am FEMALE which means I am of or denoting the sex that can bear offspring or produce eggs, distinguished biologically by the production of gametes (ova) which can be fertilized by male gametes. This is what Google had to say and honestly, this definition is neither vague nor straight forward it points out the validated distinction between a male and a female. The biological makeup of the other is different from that of the other hence why it is borne within the definitions. Yet when I walk in the street and ask a random person what a female is, I may get ludacris answers that do not even mean or compliment the actual definition.

A female to others is usually related to gender roles which are completely different from one’s sex which is female. One is then made to believe and be produced to think that a female can only be equated by the way one acts or one behaves. This view which is never subjective but rather impartial goes well with the notion of birds of the same feathers flocking together.

If you are not flocking you are not a bird.

If you are saying no and not yes you are not a woman.

Pardon me for being unladylike society but I am pretty sure what you say has never stopped a man from raping me or has stopped that man from acting mean.

We can never defy the culture can we,

Oh no if you do that you will not find a “good husband”, you will not be a “FEMALE.”

Is it really what being female is, fractions of an indoctrinated identity yet we are full of other phenomenal outstanding women who defied a norm or a belief and built themselves up to be THE FEMALE?

This second part of Gender wars is one that I want to fully exploit the beauty of WOMAN and the history of women particularly my African sisters.

“I am a strong woman. I don’t sit around feeling sorry for myself, nor let people mistreat me. I don’t respond to people who dictate to me or try to bring me down. If I fall, I will rise up even stronger because I am a survivor and not a victim. I am in control of my life and there is nothing I can’t achieve.”

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We look at the valiant Queen Nzinga of Angola whose name receives affirmation across all borders (despite the controversy that circles her rule). She was a diplomate that had one of the strongest political fightbacks against the Portuguese and was raised like a warrior. She acclaimed her QUEENDOM, she built herself in the world of violent patriarchy, she spits in the face of society and dressed like a man, despite what she had given she was still reminded how much of a woman she was, by being made sterile and her only child was murdered.

She made her QUEENDOM, an independent inspirational image one that was built of bravery, will, and determination.

I often hear people say if you are a feminist you are moving away from your culture; But is this true?

Is my culture built on the timid woman who bows before society and does not express their ills? Is our culture truly suppressive or it has been put in the hands of those with a suppressive mindset?

We are fighting a violent and stubborn war that refuses to end, it denies the logic by wanting to fulfill hypocritical fantasies.

Women still work to pave way for a world that sees their capabilities; it didn’t start now it started a long time ago but they failed to listen and you are here and still failing to listen and understand it!!

Despite the clear footprints left behind by the likes of Princess Iejue who due to her interest and devotion to her father’s rule was given the bracelet of power as her father saw her growing potential as a leader. Despite her being a focused and goal-oriented woman, she chose to become a wife and ran the kingdom.

Why is it an ideological taboo for a woman to want it all?

We look deeper into Yanengu of Ghana who was an exceptional warrior and a horsewoman and a master in archery. She was the golden woman and she had her dream but instead of a society celebrating her, they imprisoned her by denying her request for marriage. She rebelled fled and found her own kingdom that flourished and is now known as Burkina Faso. She dominated QUEENDOM and they lost their golden woman.

A bird needs to fly.

Looking at this a truly inspired FEMALE should not be defined by another but oneself and that FEMALE must make a splendid and unapologetic QUEENDOM.

Are we ok with having our predecessors look at us and feel shame or still okay with birthing children into this broken system? A world where words are violations and gender is a target mark. I refuse to be a statistic, a puppet to a broken puppeteer, and watch as the world chokes me. I want to break a cycle finish building the fortress that was laid down for Us. I want to truly Assent into my QEENDOM.